Just because you went through the motions of severing ties with your ex, it does not mean that you have lost all feelings for them. There is no denying that you spent many happy times together that cannot be dismissed very easily. Those ties are something that you feel binds you together. Are there enough feelings in your Ex to guarantee that you have a chance of winning them back?
What exactly does that mean when you still claim you are in love?
It is a very valid statement as once upon a time there was a mutual attraction and love to build a relationship on. It was a beautiful sentiment you both treasured. Certainly in the case of a long term relationship or marriage there are many memories shared. Hopefully the majority of them are memorable for their degree of happiness.
One must be careful of the illusion in thinking that residual feelings of love are enough to warrant a reunion. Just because you are lonely or linger over past romantic feelings is not enough reason to want your Ex back, you must really be sure of your reasons. Knowing deep in your heart you are only grasping for what feels familiar may not be the best choice. Getting back together under those circumstances you are bound to eventually go your separate ways since your reunion is not based on anything secure. Maybe the relationship is better if you two are just friends. There is nothing really wrong with that.
Once you have determined that you truly desire and love your Ex, then you’ve got a bit of work cut out for you. Ascertain if your Ex is interested in rekindling the connection. If so then it will happen gradually with not much effort. Try to be patient in giving her time to figure things out.
Once the two of you come to a mutual decision then is the time to start working out a new and improved relationship. If it was a marriage that was on the verge of ending then you should seek the counsel of a marriage counselor. In any event a session with a licensed counselor can benefit any couple seeking repair. Most relationships could use a little fine tuning from time to time. If your counselor is not a good fit for the two of you, find someone who is.
There are many great counselors who will be able to help you. You both have to be willing to seek counsel in the first place. If you are still in love with your Ex there is no need to remain discouraged. Remain alert to any opportunities to talk with your Ex. If you have laid down the ground works of effective communication you will effectively be able to follow the advice of a counselor which is all you need.
And soon you’ll no longer claim them as your “Ex” instead they will be your soul mate.
