It can be quite challenging and frustrating trying to save a failing marriage. If your spouse is very serious about leaving, it can be a very traumatic and depressing experience. Here are a few tips on how to save a failing marriage –
Put down on paper qualities you love in your spouse – In a bid to first acknowledge the positives from your perspective, write down on a piece of paper every single quality that you love in your spouse. Ask your spouse to do this too as this will help view each other from a fresh perspective and rekindle the missing love.
Woo your spouse to go on a date with you – Going back in time to those romantic dating days can infuse fresh enthusiasm and excitement into your relationship. Doing something totally different can also deter you from ruminating over the misunderstandings and fights in the recent past.
Communicate with your spouse – Most often than not, lack of communication is one of the main reasons for the collapse of marriage. Sit with your spouse and with a calm demeanour, discuss the problems you both face and try to work out solutions to make your marriage work.
Write down a list of problems and work out solutions – Write down a list of problems that your marriage is facing right now and discuss in detail to work out solutions with a flexible and compromising attitude.
Give each other enough space – Sometimes, being away from each other for a while will ensure that you both do not address issues in a highly emotional manner. A little distance can also help you look at your marriage from a clear perspective.
Focus on solutions rather than on problems – Rather than focusing on and discussing the problems over and over again, give strong attention only to solutions.
Stop asking friends and relatives for advice – We tend to rely on advice given by our close relatives and friends when our marriage is in trouble. If you seriously want to save your failing marriage, avoid taking the advice of outsiders as they are not in a position to judge based on the limited account you give them.
Follow these few tips and you will soon find your marriage well on its way to healing. You will be surprised at how fast you get back with your spouse and start leading a very happy life.